To Truly See Yourself

To step outside yourself just enough to see yourself from afar.
Not to save yourself but to finally understand.

To realize that for most of your life,
you weren’t giving yourself the best not because you couldn’t,
but because you didn’t believe you deserved it.

You were so deep inside yourself,
inside the pain, the self-fixing, the trying,
that you couldn’t see, you only needed to see.

And when you finally do,
you start wanting what’s truly good for you.
Not from the place of a wound,
but from a quiet trusting that life can be kind.

Then you begin to try.
To experiment.
To make mistakes.
To learn what really feels right for you,
not for the next five minutes,
but in the long run.

Because the things that are truly good for you
don’t always feel good right away.
Sometimes they ache first.
Sometimes they ask you
to walk through what you’ve been avoiding all your life.

But when you start seeing yourself from the outside,
you realize, you’re just like everyone else.
You’ve treated others with more care than yourself,
because long ago someone planted that seed of doubt:
Am I even a good person?

And that doubt stayed.
It lived with feelings disconnected from images,
so you thought, something’s wrong with me.
But it wasn’t wrongness, it was trauma speaking through your body.

Trauma in the heart.
Trauma in the cells.
And until you look at it and say,
Yes, this too is part of me,
you can’t really move forward.

Because everything true
begins with awareness.

And then you see, being good to yourself isn’t selfish.
It’s an act of courage.

We all came here for a reason.
Each of us carries a purpose —
to remember what it means
to truly live for ourselves.

A.